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How to Represent Yourself

in Family Court

What you need to know about going to family court without a solicitor.

Representing yourself in family court, sometimes called being a self-representing party (litigant in person), is increasingly common. Legal aid is no longer available for most family law matters, and solicitor costs are out of reach for many people. While having legal representation is always advantageous, it is entirely possible to navigate the court process without one.

Know the process

The most important thing you can do is understand the process before you are in it. Know what type of hearing you are attending, what its purpose is, what documents you need to file and by when.

Paperwork

Court paperwork is one of the biggest challenges for self-representing parties (litigants in person). Documents must be filed in the right format, by the right deadline, with the correct number of copies. Missing a filing deadline can have serious consequences for your case.

In the courtroom

When you speak, address the judge as "Sir" or "Ma'am". Stand when the judge enters. Be concise, judges appreciate clarity. Stick to the issues relevant to that hearing.

Your right to a McKenzie Friend

You have the right to be accompanied by a McKenzie Friend at most family court hearings. A McKenzie Friend can sit beside you, take notes, quietly advise and provide support. This can make an enormous difference, particularly at more complex or stressful hearings.

How to manage your case effectively as a litigant in person

Stay organised

Keep a dedicated folder for your case with all court documents, correspondence, and notes filed chronologically. Know what is in your bundle. Judges appreciate litigants in person who can find documents quickly.

Know the basics

The Family Procedure Rules (FPR) govern family court proceedings. Familiarity with the basics, including filing deadlines and the format of court documents, will prevent costly mistakes. The gov.uk website and the Personal Support Unit at court are both useful resources.

Be clear and focused in court

When speaking in court, be calm, clear, and focused on the issues the judge needs to decide. Do not use court time to vent or recount the full history of the relationship. Judges are experienced at managing hearings efficiently and will redirect you if you go off track.

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Frequently asked questions

Can I represent myself in family court?
Yes. You have an absolute right to represent yourself in family court as a litigant in person. Family courts see many self-representing parties and judges are required to make allowances for litigants in person.
What support is available to litigants in person?
The Personal Support Unit (PSU) operates at many family courts and can provide practical help on the day of a hearing. Citizens Advice, law centres, and some legal charities also provide free advice to litigants in person.
What is a McKenzie Friend and can they help me?
A McKenzie Friend is a person who can accompany you to court, take notes, quietly advise, and help you follow the proceedings. A professional McKenzie Friend with family proceedings experience can be enormously helpful for someone self-representing.
What documents do I need to prepare for a family court hearing?
This depends on the type of hearing. For a First Appointment you will need Form E, a questionnaire, a chronology, and a Form G. For a child arrangements hearing you may need a position statement and a schedule of proposed arrangements. Always check the court's directions carefully.
How do I address the judge in family court?
District judges are addressed as 'Sir' or 'Ma'am'. Circuit judges as 'Your Honour'. High Court judges as 'My Lord' or 'My Lady'. If you are unsure, 'Sir' or 'Ma'am' is always acceptable in the family court.
What if the other party has a solicitor and I don't?
The court will make allowances for you as a litigant in person. Focus on your preparation, be clear and calm in court, and consider getting legal advice before significant hearings even if you cannot afford full representation.
Can I get legal aid for family court proceedings?
Legal aid for private family law cases is very limited. It is available in cases involving domestic abuse or child protection concerns where supporting evidence is provided. For most private family law matters, legal aid is not available.

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